In my life coach training and certification program, I was taught that one of the cornerstones of good coaching is always remembering that our clients (and each of us) are “naturally creative, resourceful, and whole.” We do not need to be fixed or changed. We have everything we need inside of us.
One of my jobs as coach is to help clients recognize and move beyond limiting beliefs that keep them stuck in a perspective that doesn’t serve them. Anytime we think, “This is the way it has to be,” we are trapped in a limited viewpoint. Something more and better is always possible!
The following are some tools I use in my own life to help me maneuver through the many challenges and difficult decisions life presents us:
- Gratitude – Gratitude can assist us by focusing on what we have rather than what we don’t have; this helps to create more of what we desire and opens our hearts. Most mornings I make a list in my gratitude journal of five things from the previous day I am grateful for. It may include: food and shelter; the ability to walk or see or hear; the sound of birds; companion animals who give me love and humor; indoor plumbing; friends or family I love.
- Journaling – The benefits of journaling are significant and have been proven through research. When I express my negative feelings through writing, I often feel better. I may start by writing a question such as, “How can I find happiness?” and simply write whatever comes to mind. The insights I receive almost always bring some direction and guidance.
- Serving – Have you ever noticed that while you are completely immersed in helping someone else, you often forget about your own worries, at least for a while? Or you give of yourself to another only to find that you are the recipient of unexpected and amazing gifts? Being of service to someone else is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves, as well as to others.
- Dreaming – Dreams are an incredibly rich resource that has been used by cultures since ancient times. Each of us has dreams that are unique and can assist us with different aspects of our lives, such as health, career and relationships. When I pose a question before I go to sleep, I often receive an answer in my dreams. If you aren’t remembering your dreams, simply making the request can help. Through practice, you can understand your individual dream symbols and the wealth of information your dreams contain just for you.
- Singing HU – Research has shown the healing power of sound. Religions have utilized songs and chants to evoke the divine for centuries. HU (pronounced hue) is an ancient name for God and a love song to God. It can be used by people of all backgrounds to connect them to their best. It can be sung silently or out loud, alone or with others. I use it when I’m feeling stressed in rush hour traffic or when my heart is heavy with grief. I like to sing it in the morning to set the tone for my day. In any moment, it helps me to access a higher viewpoint.