My daughter Ella is 16 and very psychic. She knows things before they happen and she doesn’t know what to make of it all. I want to help her, but I’m not sure where to start and sometimes, our relationship gets a little strained when I bring things up. Any help is appreciated. ~ Concerned Mum from Minneapolis
Dear Concerned Mum,
The teenage years aren’t easy are they? Take a vat of tumultuous hormones, throw in a need for independence, a quest for identity and add a tablespoon of insecurity and you have a recipe for trouble. Mix a little psychic development into the pot and we have a bubbling cauldron that’s enough to turn any mum’s hair white. But don’t worry, help is on hand.
The first thing your psychic teen needs to know is that her sensitivity is absolutely normal. Teens generally want to run with the crowd, not stand out from it. Explaining to Ella that we are each a spirit in a body taking a journey called life is a simple way to kick off a conversation about those psychic senses and why we have them. You might even like to explain that psychic talents run in families. If you and your daughter get on well, then now’s the time to own up to your own gift. If not, blame dad!
Take Ella to the New Age bookshelves and show her how many books deal with the paranormal. If she’s comfortable, point out those books that talk about being a teenage psychic. Dougall Fraser, for example, writes about his experience as a gay psychic teenager and how awkward that was for him. Books by Doreen Virtue discuss Indigo children and Crystal children and also provide a great reference point. Ella might see herself in Virtues’ descriptions.
If Ella does choose a book, buy two copies. Reading in tandem means shared understanding and opens up a path to discussion. It’s a great way to let Ella know you care about her and what’s going on for her. She’ll appreciate that.
Of course, the paranormal is a pretty hot topic for teenagers at the moment thanks to Harry Potter and Twilight. There are TV shows like A&E’s “Psychic Kids” [www.aetv.com/psychic-kids/] and online sites where teens can chat about their psychic experiences and what it’s like for them, which could provide a forum of support for Ella. Just ensure that you are familiar with the online resources that Ella uses and that they are sites that are helpful and safe.
Of course, in all of these chat rooms the topic of religion versus spirituality will come up. Be honest with Ella. Talk about the different religions, what they believe and why. It’s okay for Ella to know that for all those people who do believe in the paranormal, there are just as many who don’t. In fact, after all of your joint investigation, Ella might turn around and say that she doesn’t want to develop her gifts — and that’s okay. There are many talented artists out there who don’t draw, people with great voices who don’t sing and yes, intuitives who’d rather watch football than read their horoscope. The most important gift you can give your daughter is a rounded investigation of the subject and the right to make up her own mind.
Being a psychic teen isn’t easy. I know. I was one. But to be honest, it’s not the psychic bit that’s really hard, it’s that whole teenage thing that’s the real fly in the ointment. Having a mum at hand who listens, empathizes and is there through the good, bad and indifferent is the secret to any teen’s success, whether tall, short, scientific or psychic.
Hope this helps!