I’m a practicing Wiccan and some kids in school are making life hell. They say stuff about what I wear and how witches were burnt in the past. They say I better watch out. Sometimes I feel so intimidated, I don’t want to go to school. Sometimes I just want to get even – with a black spell. Help! — Sam
While high school should be fun — it’s a place to make friends, try new experiences and study interesting subjects — for some kids, school sucks. They’ve been bullied.
Bullies are present in every school, in every state. Bullies pick on kids who stand out and kids that don’t. Bullies bully based on where a person lives, what a person wears, who a person’s friends are and what a person believes.
Statistics show that 1 in 4 kids are bullied at school, 80 percent of arguments with a bully ends physically and that 160,000 students stay home daily to avoid bullying. Bullying is scary and it must be stopped, because whether you’re red, white or blue, Catholic, Sikh or Wiccan, every student deserves to study in a safe, school environment, their personal space held sacred.
The first step for any victim to take (Wiccan or otherwise) is to speak out. Use that magical inner courage to speak to school staff (teacher or counselor) and report the bulling. Provide a detailed, written account of what happened, where the bullying started, and the people involved. Tell your story and use the school and the police to bring you justice. Speaking out may even prevent another kid from being victimized, too, and that makes for powerful magic!
Of course, sharing your story can create its own anxiety — and that’s why building a circle of support (your Wiccan coven) is so helpful. Support circles should include adults you can trust (parents, relatives, school counselors) and friends. These people will provide the encouragement you need, to speak to the school administration and ensure you are heard. Talk to members of your support circle if you are feeling depressed, or even suicidal. Embrace your inner wise woman and don’t suffer alone or silently. Take back your life.
If building a circle is powerful stuff, so too is ridding yourself of negative energy. Today, bullying doesn’t end with the school bell; it can continue online. Last year alone, 1 million children were bullied via Facebook (http://puresight.com) and sadly, other kids can get involved, which makes a bad situation much worst. So, turn off Facebook and block email from kids who aren’t there to help you. The Wiccan Rede states, “With a fool no season spend” and that’s good advice for anyone. Kids who participate in bullying — or who condone it by staying silent on the sidelines — are despicable and no friend to you, so lose them.
As for casting black spells, I can see why you might be tempted to throw one or two in the direction of the bully — but don’t. People who use black magic are, in my opinion, no better than the bullies themselves. The fact is that like attracts like! If you sow black thoughts, words and deeds, you grow black thoughts, words and deeds and eventually you reap them, too. So, try a spell that’s a lot more healing and far more powerful — it’s called love!
Put out a positive intention for healing. Ask for your own healing from this situation, body, mind and spirit. Then ask for the bully to heal, too. Yes, those bullies require good medicine, after all, only a person who is sick would choose to bully. And as you put out those loving intentions into the world, know that your compassion connects you to forgiveness and being able to forgive is truly divine.
We say it takes a village (or a coven), to raise a child — and that is true. It also takes a village to stop abuse at school, because all children deserve the right to study safely. And everyone — whether tall, short, academic, athletic, artistic or Wiccan — should be able to look back at their school years and say they were some of the happiest days of their life.