I want to teach my spirited kid about manifesting. Thoughts? — Manifesting Mom, Minneapolis
Dear Manifesting Mum,
“I think; Therefore I am!” (Descartes)
Last Sunday, as we walked along Excelsior’s Water Street, a quarter flew across the road, hit the ground, bounced and landed at Leo’s feet. When Leo says he “always finds money,” he’s not kidding. There isn’t a week that goes by that money doesn’t magically appear for him. The reason? My son successfully practices the principles of manifestation — and he’s only 6!
Manifesting is the term we use to describe the ability to think our goals into reality. Read Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich (1st ed.1937) or Manifest Your Destiny (1999) by Wayne Dyer or Rhonda Byrnes’ The Secret (2006) to learn more, but the core of every book is the same. If you want to eradicate disease, acquire massive wealth, overcome obstacles and achieve the impossible, you can. It just takes belief!
So how does manifesting work? The Law of Attraction states that we “attract into our lives whatever we think about” (Steve Pavlina). Think that you are happy and you’ll feel happy and start acting in ways that create happiness. Conversely, if you think that you are sad and lonely, you’ll create that reality, too. That’s because a repetitive focus on a goal or idea builds pathways in our brain that influence our behavior (what we say and do) to help bring that goal or dream to fruition.
I believe that manifesting works on a metaphysical level, too. When our thoughts are in alignment with our soul’s desire, we create pathways in the Universal Mind, which causes miraculous doors to open, synchronicities to appear and those “meant-to-be” experiences to occur, that help us on our manifesting way. Between the brilliance of our creative minds and the magnificence of a creative universe, everything is possible!
Chris was a teen living in Colorado who utilized the principles of manifesting to achieve his dream. Chris says, “I was always fascinated by airplanes, but when I took my first 40-minute flight at age 11, I was hooked.”
Inspired by a family friend who piloted for United Airlines, Chris made a decision. “United offered internships to the top 10 percent of students who attended the best aviation and aeronautical school in the country, Embry Riddle. That was where I had to go.”
Chris wasn’t a jock, or an academic superstar. In fact by 14, he wasn’t in the top 10 percent of students, he was nearer the bottom. School bullying had shot down his self-esteem and his grades had spiraled downward, too. Chris also dealt with a crippling anxiety that would cause him to freeze in social settings and was painful to watch. To some people, Chris wouldn’t have seemed to be Embry Riddle material, but Chris knew better.
Einstein said, “Your imagination is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” With his dream locked in place, Chris immersed himself in developing a pilot identity. Chris reached out to people working in aviation to learn about their experiences. He scoured libraries and stores for the latest books and magazines on aviation, which he devoured. He sacrificed motorcycling with his uncle and friend to save up money, which he combined with Christmas, birthday and pocket money to pay for an annual flight. Chris also looked online for images of planes, imagining himself at the controls, with his hand on the throttle, lifting off.
As he built a powerful piloting vision for his future, the Universe responded in kind. Chris said, “I got a major break when I changed schools.” With divine timing, Chris met an old friend who told him about a small, school located in Golden, Colorado. Chris visited and there was an instant connection. “The teachers cared. They wanted to help.” Between a dedicated staff and a new school buddy, James, who shared Chris’ passion for flying, the Universe had stepped in to provide Chris with a community that would support him in his quest to become a pilot. Reenergized and optimistic, Chris applied himself to improving his grades. “I knew what I had to do over the next four years. I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but I had complete focus.”
Focus included driving the hour to school to arrive early in time for tutoring from his math teacher. Focus included learning to overcome his anxiety and speak confidently in the classroom. Focus meant learning how to raise the standard of his writing from a D to an A. Chris notes, “I took a college level physics class. It was tough, but I just kept plugging away! Then we got into Newton’s Laws and it was hard. I decided to use visualization to imagine myself passing my test. I love to visualize and it worked. It was the third to last test and I got an 86.”
By the time he reached his senior year, Chris’ grades were at an all-time high. He’d turned his academics around and managed to achieve his Pilot’s License to boot. Now he needed to score a 22 on his ACTs. “When I got a 17, I bought a course that promised an increase in score or your money back. I worked hard. When I retook the test, I got an 18!” Undeterred, Chris pressed on. “I just felt in my gut they would accept me, in spite of my ACTs.” He was right!
That September, seven years from his maiden flight, seven years of focused determination, hard toil and manifesting later, Chris’ dream came true when he (and his friend James) entered the hallowed halls of Embry Riddle. That first term, Chris earned a crowning academic achievement of straight A’s. He really was flying!
Adora Zvitak says, “In order to make anything a reality, you have to dream about it first.” Not every spirited kid knows how to manifest like Chris, but they should. Teaching our kids to think about their future, imagine their dreams, and commit to them, is a gift. It’s a gift of empowerment. It lets our kids know that no matter the circumstances of their birth, their advantages or disadvantages, everything really is possible, if they believe it is.
So tonight, switch off your kid’s favorite TV show, turn off the video game, put away the PokÃ©mon and make some manifesting small talk. Explain to your spirited kid about how manifesting works and how you’ve manifested your dreams in your life, or share Chris’ story. Then ask your child about her hopes and dreams. Listen carefully to the response, and as she lies back on her pillow and drifts off to sleep, smile. For tonight you may have helped sow the seed of a dream, which will take root in the recesses of your child’s imagination, germinate, flourish and with determined focus and self-belief, grow into a truly amazing life journey.
After all, if you think it, it really can happen.