From the Heart: The Jewel in the Lotus


I was coaching a woman who was stuck in the process of getting her website posted. When I asked about the hardest piece for her during the process, she said it was creating the “About Me” page. “I struggle with whether I am truly qualified to offer my services,” she said. “I feel encumbered by self-doubts and self-judgments.”

When I asked her where she had learned these doubts, she explained that her father was a critical editor, and as a child she grew hesitant to make any statements about herself, since he might put her down for not being perfect or expressing herself impeccably. During our coaching session, she realized that she needed to communicate with her father and heal their relationship. After making significant progress in our session, her last words were, “It wasn’t about the website at all, was it?”

It never is. It’s always about your thoughts, fears and visions about presenting yourself to the world. A website or any new profession, relationship or step ahead in life is an excellent projective test for where your consciousness lives at the moment. Since life is more about what’s going on inside you rather than what’s going on outside, the best use of outside is to shine light on the inside, so you can progress in your soul’s journey.

A woman phoned in to my radio show ( and asked for some tips on how to lose excess pounds. I asked her when the weight had come on, and she answered that it had started when she had gotten divorced a few years earlier. Then I asked her a question based on what the spiritual teacher Bashar calls “the motivational mechanism.”

“How do you believe the weight serves you? If, on some level, you have chosen the weight for a reason, what would that reason be?” She thought for a moment and answered, “The end of my marriage and my divorce were so painful that I really don’t want another man in my life, at least not now. Perhaps I believe that the excess weight makes me less attractive to men, and I won’t have to deal with all those messy issues.”

I thanked her for her honesty and then asked her if she would consider simply making the choice to not be with a man for now without needing to use the weight as a protective mechanism. She liked that idea and we explored ways she could claim her power and her choices by making clear statements. The conversation ended on a high note. So the weight was not the problem. It was the symptom. More deeply, it was a directional signal to look deeper.

In my life coach training program, I teach the students to distinguish between presenting issues and core issues. The issue presented is rarely the one that needs to be addressed. If you are having trouble moving chess pieces around the playing board, it’s because there are magnets under the table holding the pieces in place or moving them to undesirable places. When you look under the table and see the hand that is holding the magnet — and recognize it to be your own — you are free to move the pieces where you choose.

One of the most famous Buddhist mantras is “om mane padme hum,” which means, “the jewel in the lotus.” The lotus represents the surface appearance of life, and the jewel represents the spiritual reality underlying the obvious reality. The obvious reality is but relatively real. The spiritual reality is ultimately real. If you truly seek reality, look deeper.

Appearances are deceptive. Life seems to be one thing, when it is really another. Yet, we can use appearances, especially troubling ones, to follow the trail of bread crumbs to the source of causation, which is always mind, belief, attitude and expectation. Building a website is the new Rorschach projective test. Ink blots have given way to pixels. I sometimes fantasize about developing a coaching practice in which I ask clients to build a website, and then process with them what comes up along the way.

You don’t need to build a website to face your fears and limiting beliefs, as well as your courage and your glorious visions. Every day at work, every relationship, every time you look in the mirror, every time you look at your bank balance, you have a golden opportunity to pierce to the jewel in the lotus. Every moment in your earthly journey is an expression of your consciousness.

We are not here to manipulate events. We are here to elevate consciousness. When we do so, the events of our lives flow naturally and well. Then, all of our daily activities become fuel for spiritual growth, and we are well on our way to mastery.

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Alan Cohen
Alan Cohen is the author of many inspirational books including A Course in Miracles Made Easy. Join Alan for his life-changing Holistic Life Coach Training beginning September 1, 2020. For information on this program and Alan’s books, videos, audios, online courses, retreats, and other inspirational events and materials, visit


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