I arrive with a charge. I can enrich your life if you are wise, or leave you bankrupt if you are not prudent. I permeate all public forums, appearing in every class, from the minority to majority, and can be found amid every religious sect. I am the cause of much contention.
I am the seven deadly sins, reactive: I lust for disenfranchised families, I’m greedy for untenable friendships, I’m prideful of the preplanned violation; I sloth over inattentiveness. Who am I? Anger.
The verb anger is from the Old Norse word meaning “grief.” When you escort anger, you are the bereaved, and mourn for a former state of equilibrium.
Anger both dissociates and dislocates us. As is spiritually understood, the heart advocates free “love” and its movement. When anger consumes you, your range of opportunity and presence narrows. You cannot see outside the self-centered box that says, “I was wronged.” Many who experience anger “fall” into two categories:
• The type A personality who cannot accept criticism or disorganization in any form, and who frequently gives the same. This type likely has repressed anger, and is a workaholic to the point of ill health.
• The perfectionist or workaholic, who is prideful as compensation, and for whom any self-referencing mirror for proactive change is lacking and rejected. Such a person is incompatible with the solution, latent and constructive though it is, and for which, even you, present. In this setting, anger is too self-involved to view its action from a place of critique and improvement.
What we need is the constructive angle. Here, our negative habits are examined and reconstructed; a more positive mindset established. Anger’s mechanism is now removed from personal recrimination. We are curious as to its cause and remorseful by its effect. The question arises: Is it more beneficial for our health to concentrate on the feather fluff, which is ephemeral, or the “heart of the matter?”
Remember, anger needs an angle to grow. We learn strategies in proper self-care and “right” conduct, when we evaluate our response, and remove that which is not of necessity. With the constructive angle, there is range, its host of solutions, and the freedom of an unaffected, though conscientious, lifestyle.
Here are some insights and remedies you can begin today. They will help you increase your wellbeing and maintain a positive outlook.
Give in love, you never fail. Hate weakens; to hate is to mourn for love not reciprocated. Too much time is wasted attempting to change another’s behavior. You never will. Change yours.
Only that which promotes health is worth visiting; everything else is compulsion.
Instead of measuring the supposed difference between self and other — which is not lack within you, but possibility, for what you see in another, you contain somewhere — measure harmony.
Study universal laws, including the “law of abundance,” “law of attraction,” “law of cause and effect” and “law of compensation.” Know that with your every action and word you are setting into motion a reality that is favorable to your life or not. Anger has an age and progression. Its motion can be measured, and an angle of perspective and centrality formed. As the physicist knows the moving body with its placement, station and unfoldment, look then at anger as a force of creation which you, as universal designer, can fashion into peace.
Lastly, don’t forget to celebrate “World Heart Day” on September 29. When we view anger as a learning tool, our personal relationship with self and others is improved and we maintain a happy, healthy heart.
With love, from my mine to yours.